Is a Step Mom a Real Mom?

Is a Step-Mom a Real Mom? To be honest I say YES! And if you feel you aren't and you are a stepmom then you have to STEP it up! In my early twenties, I had two children. I always wanted more. Four to be exact but my body thought otherwise and they had to tie my tubes. Through a lot of circumstances in my life, I met someone who had two more children after my divorce. These boys also became my whole heart and soul. They became mine as much as their biological parents to me. I loved them and helped them like I did my own. Soon after marriage, they were officially mine too but in reality, I thought they were also my boys before that ever even happened. I was a mother of 4. I was a true Step-Mom. I actually hated that word because it sounds like the wicked step-mom from Cinderella. I would like to be called the "my other mom" is just jives with me better.

So through the years, the four kids ended up being brothers. They thankfully never fought. We were very lucky for sure.  All the kids were treated the same, as same as you can with 4 different personalities. I didn't and still don't see them any different. I would give my life to any of them if need be. These are my children. I know that they each have other parents that are great parents to them but I feel like children can be loved more.

If you are a Stepparent. Please STEP up because that is what it is all about. I have seen far too many step parents treat those children worse. I feel that you are truly hurting that child. Is it their fault the parents are divorced and you are in the picture now....no! So do what's right for the kids. Be there through their birthdays and Graduations and every event and day in between. Be there when they cry or when they have the utmost happiest event in their life. Just BE THERE. That's all you have to do. A child or eventually an adult just needs to know you are there for them and that is what I plan on doing my whole life.

My original two before I was blessed with my next two are soon to have a Step-Mom. I am so thankful for her because she treats my/her kids with grace and helps their father be even a better father. Its those ppl we all should be grateful for. No one wants to say no to more love to their children.

So in ending. To me, I am not a Step-Mom. I am just a Mom to four capable, smart, funny, adventurous children/adults and I will forever love them no matter what happens in life. Its a love that is pure and a love that will never change. I love you boys! You four are my heart! When you look at the pictures you can't tell there are any "steps" in there because they are just brothers!
                                                                                                     Love, Ro

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You're better than me

Let's just get that out of the way, you're better than me.  I can say that with absolute certainty, YOU reading this...... are better than me.  Can we just end there? Can you just be content in knowing you are better than me?  No? you need to know why?  to actually make you accept that you are better, to give you some satisfaction and pride you need to know why and be able to think that over. Ok, alright...you may run a faster mile than me, have better ankles, be a better mom, a better cook, a better friend, a better sister.  More than likely I'm better at some things about being a sister and way worse at some.  I can cook and bake and yet there are so many better than me and yet.... I'm better than many.  Your smile may be better than mine and I may give a better hug.... the point is we cannot compare only what people are good at and us.  This mom makes better lunches for her kid, this mom always has the kid's hair so cute, this mom makes friends with everyone.  yet that's not the same mom, why do we think we need to be the best of everyone?  Theodore Roosevelt said "comparison is the thief of joy"  let's stop stealing our own joy, know we are the best at some things, we are the best at knowing our kids, don't let comparison steal our joy. -Lo


I think we all have things we are good at and I am happy when someone is better than me at stuff because I can easily learn from them. Love, Ro